Amongst a group of people a little girl stands looking around. She notices that she’s different. She has a coloured coat, nice and soft and made of beautiful fabric. The others have thick layers of fabric. It’s looks like they’re wearing multiple layers of coats, all grey and made of stiff fabric. The girl asks “Why are you wearing so many layers?”. One of the people answers “this is our life coat and we are older than you are. Every time we have an experience that is impressive, a new layer is added, an extra coat so to speak”. The little girl is intrigued by this story and asks “why are the layers a bit grey and not coloured?” Many questions come to the mind of the girl and she asks “Can you take the coats of? ”
One of the people says “Every time we have an emotion, which we suppress or deny, we store the energy of that emotion in our energy field and thus in our body. If we continue to do so year after year, our energy field feels heavy. It is like we wear an old coat with painful memories. In our daily lives this has a price tag. We feel sad or confused, our relationships aren’t working so well, we are not inspired and feel tired all the time and create things we don’t want. Besides that we develop unpleasant characteristics like being a ‘know it all’ or being easily offended. That’s why the coats have a grey colour. Looking at our emotions, or letting go of them is not easy, that’s why we don’t take them of.
The little girl is confused about this story. She asks “will I get extra layers too when I grow up?” The other person says “if you are smart, make sure that if something bad happens you talk about it and let it go afterwards. If you are smart, make sure you forgive people for the pain they might have caused you and forgive yourself for the mistakes you might make in your life. That way you might not develop the layers and keep that beautiful coloured coat you are wearing now.
The little girl is happy with these wise words and as she walks away her colourful coat seems to be dancing around her legs.
In the last quarter of 2012, I watched an episode of The Supernaturals that made me decide to let go of everything, and hold absolutely nothing against anyone anymore.
Normally, I’m a happy person but there were a few people at that time of my life that had caused me so much hurt. I decided to let go! I decided to forgive, and to forget my deepest hurts.
I also made a decision not to do anything that will bug my conscience even a little bit. This was the harder decision, but I’m getting along fine. The “forgive and forget” decision was a lot easier and I can recall memories of people that once hurt me with a genuine smile on my face
Over the years, I have somehow conditioned my brain to only remember the best moments of my past, even in the most painful experiences. This is one of my secrets to happiness
I may have a few layers of coat, but thank God they are still quite colorful :)))
Thank you for you beautiful reaction Okiemute