When I was 13 years old I had a girl living next door. She was a bit older and I thought she was the coolest person ever. She had everything I didn’t have. She was cool, had a great figure, awesome clothes and she got lots of attention. I looked up to her and I would have given everything just to be like her. What I didn’t see was that I had different qualities like a nice personality.. which couldn’t be said of the girl I admired so much. It starts early on.. people comparing themselves with others. The result is that after comparing yourself, your opinion on yourself is even worse than it was before. There are always things other people are better at, or things other people seem to have more luck than you do.
It’s a pity that we compare, because all the time we spend on comparing, we don’t seem to notice our own unique qualities.
We don’t develop our talents, because we are too busy looking at others. Even worse is when people start a battle due to comparing. Out of insecurity they try to eliminate their competition.
It has happened to me too… comparing myself with others. If I hear from people in my network that someone I know got the job I also applied for.. I go “hm.. well, hm.. I have learned one valuable lesson. It is never personal. The other person had just a much right to apply for the job and he or she got it.. that is their fortune. It doesn’t mean I wouldn’t have been good at the job. It has made applying for jobs less stressful for me. If I constantly compare myself with people who do have a job or who are applying while they already have a job, than my only focus is on something I don’t have and I would almost become a poor me person.
What is it that makes it possible for me to not take things personal… The answer is simple. Self esteem. The conviction that I’m OK. I’m a good coach, inspirator, writer and what ever I would like to be. I know that I apply with many other people on just one job opening and that it’s to the recruiter to decide what kind of person they want for the job..
I do find it difficult if people start comparing themselves to me. Oh.. you are so good at writing, you’re such a good…. And while they start doing that, you can almost see the self esteem flowing out of them. Comparing yourself is not smart. Everyone is different, everyone has talents. It’s not helpful to just see the shining star in others and not see your own. People will not appreciate you for comparing. So get ready.. take your place on the stage… If you are busy with your own show… you won’t have time to compare…
Show time! 
