If you find one of your friends jumping all over internet, posting new pictures on all social media… you might know what’s going on… It’s the same story again.. Another attempt tragically failed.. Another broken heart..
The reason why relationships don’t work out is often the same.. (i am referring to people over 30 years old with children, just to paint the right picture for you).
The reason is.. it didn’t work out with the kids. I personally don’t think that is strange. As a child you have been in a save home with a mum and a dad and the divorce was killing, so if outside the castle wall comes a new knight in shinning amour or a beautiful princess… that is one shock you are not willingly going to bare..
Getting used to a new schedule of dividing time between your mum and dad takes time. If you do adjust to the new situation.. you are not happy about any other changes that come in the family life. A new love is not welcomed with open arms.. and if their are children involved from the new love… Don’t think the child will be jumping for joy to share a bedroom or the attention from mum or dad.. The grown ups better think again!
Normally children do not witness their parents in a state of butterflies flying around them and pink glasses on their noses. Children were the product of the love of their parents.. and now they are witnesses. Seeing your mum or dad all in love must be strange… The attention the child got before now has to be shared.. And mum or dad has an extra role in life.. Being themselves.. with needs of their own.
Having a new relationship after a divorce is difficult. Combining time schedules to create some time alone with your new love sometimes means checking four calenders (the ex partners also have one).
Maybe dating sites should offer on line training for their members. How to combine family lives.. It might make a difference.
To people who are trying to start a new relationship after a divorce.. I can only wish you good luck, patience and wisdom.. and a happily ever after for the both of you.
